SESSION 12

Listen to Joe Hawk's eighth tape.

The fourth step - "Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves." | Sex Inventory

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People I have been intimate with, not just on the physical level. Review conduct towards others over the past years.

1. Where had I been selfish, dishonest, or inconsiderate?
2. Whom had I hurt?
3. Did I unjustifiably arouse jealousy, suspicion, anger or bitterness?
4. Where was I at fault and what should I have done instead?

Referring to our list we review our past conduct. From this we try to shape a sane and sound ideal for our future sex life. We subject each relationship to this test - Was it selfish or not? We ask the God of our understanding to mold our ideals and help us live up to them. We remember our powers are God given therefore good, neither to be used lightly or selfishly nor to be despised and loathed. Whatever our ideals turn out to be, we must be willing to grow towards doing God's will, not ours. We earnestly pray for the right guidance in each questionable situation. For sanity and for the strength to do the right thing.
If sex is very troublesome we throw ourselves into helping others. This removes one from self and quiets the imperious urge, when to yield would mean heartache.

Attitudes towards Our Partners

1. How do I respond when a my partner doesn't meet my expectations?
2. What are some of the ways I have hurt my partner (physically, mentally, verbally or emotionally)?
3. Have I denied my actions?
4. Do I blame him/her for my actions? How do I blame them?
5. Have I learned to constructively express my anger toward my partner?
6. Have I not let my partner take responsibility for his or her own actions?

What is my ideal? What do I need to work toward?

Did you notice the fear inventory came before the sex inventory?